Dating

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I met this guy on the internet and we started talking...we decided to meet each other in person so we did...after we met we kept in touch everyday by text message mainly because of his job. After that we went out a few times and really got along great....he asked me to be his girlfriend and i accepted. His job keeps him out of town and traveling for weeks at a time and so I dont get to see him much, but we keep in touch, text messaging or IM and a few phone calls here and there. When he is around the area he lets me know and we get together and go out and I usually end up staying the night with him and then leaving in the morning when he leaves for work. This has gone on for 5 months now and we already tell eachother " I love you". There are times that I dont hear from him for a few days and of course I worry, and when I finally do hear from him, he usually has an explanation, and so I tell him how hard it is for me to not hear from in in days and how i worry. Just recently, he has been working more because of the holidays, he hasn't been texting me often or been online to talk to, I call him and he doesn't answer his phone. I send him texts and offline messages telling him that im worried and to get ahold of me, as of now its has been going on the 4th day that I have not heard from him and I am not sure what to think anymore. Do you think he might not be interested anymore and just not returning my calls or my text messages? Im so confused and scared, since we are in a long distanance relationship that he just might of given up and dont want to hurt my feelings by letting me know, or am I over reacting? Please help.

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well basically right now im
in a relationship and im happy
for the most part. but to be honest
im still really deep in love with my
ex. infact i love him more then i do
my current. so it creates a situation.
some days i feel like its just me and
my baby. then other days im like
damn i miss my ex soooo much.
both me and my ex still love each
other but are currently dating other
people. what should i do?
and do you think it would cause
an arguement if i were to talk to my
boyfriend about it?

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my first and only bf till i graduate high school.....i never thought we would be close friends like before.....after breaking up..but we are still closes. we kinda split alittle cause the fact that we dont have classes together at all...soo that made us not talk to each other much but since summer school, we still talk like we use to. its just you and your ex gotta make it work so it can work. if one person doesnt like the idea of being friends then you guys cant...im still awkward and shy around him...but thats me around every guy

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My advice is just not to keep your hopes up. She told you a few months back that she probably would not be getting a boyfriend soon. Either she means it or shes just not very interested in you. Another thing I would add is if you really do want to pursue a relationship with someone - not just her, but anyone in general - give it time. Dont tell someone youre interested in her just after a week of talking. Give it time to build up the friendship first and if by the way she acts and talks to you you sorta have an inkling that she likes you as well, then you can bring it up to her. But a week? Maybe a bit too fast. Thats just my 2 cents on this.

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as much as the whole friends after breakup thing may sound really good..i personally dont think it can happen..
when i broke up with my ex, we tried to remain best friends still, but just being that close to eachother brought back old feelings and then it turned into a friends with benefits sort of thing..which wasnt fair to either of us.
so point being, its possible.. just REALLY REALLY hard because of the old feelings and what nots..
if you want to be friends with him still, you guys should just give eachother space/time for the feelings to go byebye
thats just my twocents tho :

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as the topic title states: are you still friends with your ex?

people always say the whole friend thing never works out and all that, and for me thats true, i completely stopped talking to my ex. when i ended it with him haha i said: "uhm haha we can still be friends.." and he was all: "you know that never works out." and so i tried to prove him wrong and tried to be friends lol but in the end i just decided that its true. no loss really.

so? are you still friends with your ex? haha.


if theres a topic like this already just close this. even if there was i would be too lazy to look

edit: btw im not saying i want to be friends with him and asking if its possible for me, just wondering if the "friend thing never works out" is true.

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yea thats the thing that really confused me. I understand some of the games you have to play, but the fact that she never emails unless its repsonding to my email really confused me. Ive met some serious game players here, but even those will usually send a short "hi" or something.

Anyone else had a girl that wouldnt really email u but in the long run turns out she likes you and is just playing "really hard to get", lol?

Trich pants...yes and yes. Can you just enlighten me more about your opinion thanks bro.

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she broke up with me 2 months ago, anyway many arguments between us both even after her saying she wanted to get back with me she just needed time. anyway before i went on holiday had a text off her saying im pathetic and i need to stop ruining her life when i hadnt spoke to her in weeks. Apparently my auntie had said to somebody in the gym we go to that she had been textin me again, and a lad she was probably getting with found out and had said he didnt want to get with her because of that, so i started havin a big go at her because ive told her all along i want to get back with her and shes told me how much of a hard time shes had since we broke up and ive told her i want to be ther and support like i always did because we went through sum very serious things together and i know that no one could ever support each other the way that we did. Anyway i said i was sorry and that i wanted her to see my little sister again because i know she meant the world to her and they both adored each other, and that i wanted to work things out when i got back off holiday and get back together and she said just to leave her alone for abit, what do u think she means by this? and i deleted her off facebook when we broke up so i couldnt speak to her, so i logged onto a friends facebook and went on her profile, and seen that she still had the pictures of us when we went out on valentines day, aniversarry, and holidays we went on. But i feel like im too scared to engage conversation with her, what do i do? help much appreciated

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Im still friends with my ex, and we broke up three years ago. Of course, half a year after we were over, I didnt want to talk with him anymore, so I ignored him as much as I could until he said hi to me one day. Asked me how I was, etc. And we just started talking like nothing happened, but then we became one of those on and off couples and it was really frustrating. Eventually, things were set aside and we just stayed as friends. And hes still one of my closest friends and I can talk with him easily about... almost anything, haha.

For some people, it would work. But for some... I guess, depending on how the relationship went... No.

Im just really lucky that I can still be friends with mine.

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Give it a few days, find something you are going to be doing anyway, and give her one more chance. Although I know her "invitation" sounds like a great opportunity to capitalize on, the more likely scenario is shes testing for your level of interest in her and whether its "too high" for only knowing her a short time.

Do do something fun and social without her. Call her up 1-2 days later and talk about that fun thing you did. Then pick up the conversation from there without making ANY more invitations to her.

If she still has interest, she will bring something up that presents an opportunity to meet and then you will have to make yourself unavailable "Im busy then"..."have other plans"... etc and open up the opportunity for her to make a counter-offer of some kind time/place of which you can think about it and agree to.

That will restore your value to where it was before, avoiding further flakes. IF shes not really interested then shes not going to bring up any meet opportunities unless you do at which point shell start avoiding and continue to flake and the only way back is to re-build attraction almost from scratch.

Greetings